Style is regarded as a contest particularly in the age where social media continuously exposes our social media feeds with the outfits of other individuals. One can easily assume that good style is all about comparing yourself with other people and where you have failed. Such an attitude has the potential to remove the fun out of dressing and make fashion a source of stress as opposed to an outlet. The first step to becoming more confident and authentic in the sense of style is understanding the harmful nature of comparison.

The Nature of Personal Style

Individual style is influenced by his personal tastes, way of life, culture, and ease. What appears easy and fashionable on one individual can be unnatural or unworkable on another individual. It is a mistake to compare your style to others when the concept of fashion is not supposed to be universal. The decisions that each individual makes are shaped by various needs and experiences thus it is impractical to make a direct comparison.

You can always find something to feel good in when you are always seeking an outside confirmation, so you forget what you really like to wear. This may eventually result in a wardrobe that is full of things that are based upon trends or the aesthetics of other people, as opposed to yours. Fashion is the real style when you give yourself the liberty to explore and follow your inner feelings without being judged by others.

The Impact on Confidence

The comparison of your style with others tends to cause unneeded self-doubt. You start to wonder whether your clothes are good or fashionable enough even when they fit you perfectly well. This attitude may lead to a lack of confidence and dressing may seem a stress instead of a strength.

Good style is built through consistency and self acceptance, it is not built through imitation. When you concentrate on how you feel about the clothes and not how they compare to the appearance of another person, your attending to others will be more confident. Scarfs, basic or flashy body jewelry, are more purposeful when it means of feeling confident than they are of comparison.

The Power of Fashion and Media

Comparisons are always promoted in the fashion media of our time, through the promotion of edited and unrealistic images. These images can hardly present the complete image, such as styling work, tailoring, or computer editing. By comparing your daily style to these refined pictures you develop an unrealistic set of expectations that many people can hardly achieve.

Trends are meant to be changed fast, whereas personal style will be changed at a slower and more substantial rate. Following the trend that people are wearing can also result in frustration and wastage of money. When you give up constant comparison, you will be able to select things that reflect your life and values rather than passing online like a craze.

Creating a Style That ‘Fits Natural.

Releasing comparison leaves room to find out what actually works best to you. This is done by listening to fabrics, shapes, colors that enable you to feel at ease and comfortable. These decisions make a unified style that is influenced by your personality over time and not by what others want you to be.

A genuine style does not have to be perfect and constantly changing. It is developed by little, conscious choices and trusting oneself. Once you start not judging your style next to other people, fashion will cease being about fitting in and more about expressing yourself, this way you will be able to enjoy the process of dressing as an act of creativity and personal expression instead of a judgment.

Fashion does not reflect the similarity to others, but the sincerity with which people represent themselves. Releasing comparison will enable you to dress in purpose, self-confidence and comfort without any constant urge to keep-up. Fashion can also be used as a means of self-expression and not self-criticism when you work at what is right to you. Exploring your personality, you will develop a style that will be personal, sustainable, and deeply personal.